Showing posts with label coaching. Show all posts
Showing posts with label coaching. Show all posts

Tuesday, October 11, 2016

Review: Co-Active Coaching by Henry and Karen Kimsey-House



Over the last three years, my friend Jake and I have been benefitting hugely from having executive/leadership coaches to help us elevate our capacity to lead, to serve, and to bring our best, not only to the fight to end extreme poverty, but also to every area of our lives. During the last couple of years, in some of my sessions with my coach, I talked to him about potentially learning the skills and getting formal training and certification to be an executive coach. He was very supportive, and over the last several months I have been receiving formal training and I am in the process of certification to be an executive/leadership coach. While I plan to write more about that experience, at some point, this post is about a book that is part of the required curriculum for certification with the Coaches Training Institute (CTI).

The book, Co-ActiveCoaching actually has four authors: Henry Kimsey-House, Karen Kimsey-House, Phillip Sandahl, and Laura Whitworth. These four authors are some of the first people to launch into professional coaching, and they have influenced the field for more than a quarter century. Among those who have commented or endorsed the book are legendary leadership development guru and author of The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, Stephen Covey.

The book is considered a best-selling must have book for those in the professional coaching industry, and based on my experience and formal training, I would say that it is incredibly helpful for those who are working in the coaching vocation formally, and for those who have had formal training in training, but that without formal training, the language and terms would be difficult to get one’s mind around the depth of their meaning. This is not to say that the book is hard to understand, because it is not super-complex language; it is more to say that without an appropriate context the reader might have some difficulty bringing these tools to their fullness.


As someone who is now a practitioner (again more on that in a future post), I highly recommend the book as a valuable tool and reference guide for executive or leadership coaches. The book is a thorough guide to the principles, cornerstones, contexts, and tools needed for effective coaching. The book has been used as a curriculum at graduate business schools such as Yale and Duquesne. I believe that even without formal training on the Co-Active Model, the book can guide managers and leaders with regard to bringing out their best and the best in those around them, but make no mistake, this is not a “productivity tool book” but more of a reference guide for those who are serious professionals dedicated to the development of themselves and others.

Tuesday, February 02, 2016

Review: The Trusted Advisor by David H. Maister



A few weeks ago, one of my coworkers at Nuru, Marc, gave me his copy of a book he thought I might find enjoyable. It was called The Trusted Advisor by David Maister. It probably would not have been a book I would have picked up on my own, but I'm always appreciative of a good book recommendation. I had also communicated with Marc my desire to grow in my ability to lead, coach, and develop the talents of others, so I started looking at this book as a potential tool toward that end.

The book, which receives some pretty incredible reviews on Amazon, is a fairly quick read, and filled with personal examples from the author(s) own experiences. The themes of this book are incredibly important and timely in a world that is growing increasingly skeptical of "experts" and those who are in the know. It is a reminder of the Theodore Roosevelt quote, "Nobody cares how much you know until they know how much you care."

Maister and his fellow authors, Charles Green and Robert Galford walk through the importance of trust and of developing relationships with others as well as the outflow of those relationships over time. It actually brought to mind this short verse from Saul of Tarsus in his letter to the Corinthian church, "Moreover, it is required of stewards that they be found faithful." Trust is not something that comes in an instant, it comes over time, it comes from faithful practice, and it comes as a result of very real relationships. The authors point out it comes more from learning how to listen well than it does from all that one might have on their mind to say.

Looking to learn more about how to be a better friend, advisor, counselor, coach, or advisor? Take a look at The Trusted Advisor, and learn from its many chapters, examples, and actionable lists. May we each work to cultivate and practice greater trust in our relationships with others.

Monday, February 01, 2016

Reflection: My 2016 Goals Part Two



A few days ago, I started sharing my top goals for 2016. I felt like my post was getting a little long, and so I divided it up into two sections. If you want to get the rest of the list, check out my previous post. Each year I like to develop a list of overarching goals that inform my life mission and help me bring my best into every day. Here are a few of the goals I have set for 2016. If you are not a goal setter, I want to encourage you to set some goals for your 2016 as well. Below is the second half of my goals for 2016. Please, when you can send me a note to encourage me along the way--I always appreciate it!

Make healthier dietary choices. The data is out there. Sugar is terrible for you (beyond tooth decay), and it is EVERYWHERE! Jamie and I have been pretty disciplined in our food and beverage choices, but we plan to step it up even more in 2016 and part of that means making more meals at home, finding healthy snacks, and taking our vitamins!

Vacation. This is something I have historically been horrible with. I do not take time for vacation. Many times when I actually do take vacation, I still find myself doing work and hopping online to check emails or answer "urgent" requests. This year, I'm committed to planning for and using the vacation time that has been given me. At the forefront, I will take time off to go "off the grid" and celebrate five AMAZING years together with Jamie! Separately, I have gotten out of rhythm with regard to Sabbath. This year, I am working toward renewing my personal commitment to Sabbath. The irony of a general cultural desire to uphold the majority of the Ten Commandments is that we treat the commandment about Sabbath as an exception. 

Simplify. Every year Jamie and I make small inroads toward pushing things out the door that we have acquired over the years. And this year, we are already starting to go through our clothes, books, etc. and donate them so other people can enjoy them. Several years ago I started amassing quite a library, and while I have enjoyed reading just about every book on my shelves, the reality is that I am highly unlikely to read the majority of them a second time. So...I am planning to push many of these tomes out the door. Of course another aspect of simplifying means lowering my footprint, walking instead of driving, and turning off electronics, and lights when not in use. 

Pursue formal training to be a certified coach. This one is a new one in some ways. My entire life I have benefitted from being around people who were smarter than me, more talented than me, and who provided incredible mentorship to me. And at the core of my being, I think one of the things that brings me great joy is helping others bring their very best to the world. As a result, this year I'm pursuing formal training to become a better executive/leadership/life coach and mentor. As one of my personal mentors pointed out to me in a recent conversation, "You already do this stuff--getting trained will help you to do it better."

Play more. I believe this could probably be connected to vacation, simplifying and other goals, but when I think about this goal, it has more to do with seeking to do some activities purely for enjoyment. Whether that is playing a game of cards, playing H-O-R-S-E with Jamie on a local playground, or throwing a baseball in the yard, I want to be intentional in finding time to play in 2016. Life is pretty serious. The work we are doing at Nuru is pretty serious too. But play keeps our hearts light and and makes the serious work a little easier to push through. I don't have a specific goal for the frequency with which I want to play, but I know that I want to pursue more activities than I currently do simply for the sake of enjoying them.

So what are your goals? What will you do to bring your very best in 2016? May we each bring forth our very best for the glory of God and for the good of humanity in the year ahead.